Lies People Pleasers Tell Themselves (& How They Keep Us Stuck)
For the last 6 years, I’ve studied the beliefs that drove my people-pleasing behaviors and I realized they were ALL lies. They were stories I’d started telling myself about how I had to be a certain way, say the right things, put others first, make sure I never hurt anyone’s feelings, get along, stay quiet, do what I was told, fit in. All of these stories I learned as a young girl. And these stories followed me everywhere… ‘cause ya know - wherever you go, there you are. To college, on dates, in interviews, at jobs, with my friends and partners. Everywhere!
Do You Say 'Sorry' Too Much? How Over Apologizing Impacts Your Confidence
Do you find yourself apologizing for things you don't need to be sorry for? If so, you're not alone. Many people have developed the habit of over-apologizing, which can have a negative impact on confidence, self-esteem, and communication skills.
3 Shocking Reasons Your New Year’s Resolutions Fail
There’s nothing much more satisfying to me than a clean slate, a chance to start fresh… and that’s what January 1st represents for most of us every year.
We let go of all the crap from the past and are ready to take the world by storm, creating everything we’ve ever wanted in our life.
But statistics show that a mere 8% of us actually DO take the world by storm.
If you’re in the 92% who have lofty goals on January 1 and then are beating yourself up by January 31, here are 3 reasons you may not know about how your brain works against you and your lofty goals.
The Secret to Creating Real Change in Midlife
By midlife, most of us have developed a lot of habits. And many of them we don’t like - eating junk food, not working out regularly, watching too much TV, procrastinating. Maybe smoking or drinking too much is on your list too.
By definition, a habit is something repeated enough times it becomes automatic.
Come home from work, take off your shoes, and veg on the couch for longer than you wanted. Turn on a movie and mindlessly eat the whole bag of chips while watching. Drink a half bottle of wine while preparing dinner.
Do these once, and it’s no big deal. But repeated over and over, and suddenly you have a habit you don’t even think about, and one you probably don’t want.
Most of us think of habits as something we do (or don’t do)... physical things. But that’s not what this blog is about.
Have you ever considered that your thoughts are habits too?